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Book of the Month... November 2002 |
by
Robert A. Glover, Ph.D.
Hard cover edition available January 2003
What's wrong with being a Nice Guy? Plenty, according to Dr. Robert Glover, an eminent psychotherapist who has devoted his career to freeing men from the "Nice Guy Syndrome." In a revealing look at this widespread yet unexplored phenomenon, Dr. Glover explains how-by trying too hard to please others and neglecting their own needs-supposedly nice men become unhappy, resentful, and lash out against those they love. Based on years of clinical group therapy with men and couples, Dr. Glover's groundbreaking work teaches men how to stop seeking the approval of others and start living up to their full potential. No More Mr. Nice Guy! will transform the lives of nice guys everywhere.
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Book Excerpt... No More Mr. Nice Guy |
INTRODUCTION... by Robert A. Glover, Ph.D.
Nice Guys are concerned about looking good and doing it "right." They are happiest when they are making others happy. Nice Guys avoid conflict like the plague and will go to great lengths to avoid upsetting anyone. In general, Nice Guys are peaceful and generous. Nice Guys are especially concerned about pleasing women and being different from other men. In a nutshell, Nice Guys believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will in return be happy, loved, and fulfilled.
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Columns and Articles... |
GUEST ARTICLE... by Martin Brossman
7 Efficient Ways to Emasculate Yourself & Destroy Your Relationship at the Same Time.
Spending a lot of my life seeking to move beyond the "gender issue" - being all things to all people - left me feeling empty inside. It also left me with many women who loved me for what a "sensitive guy" I was, but I lacked a deeper sense of being grounded. What I can say is, something profoundly changed in my life when I set aside my commitment to being some kind of "purely androgynous balanced being" and got more involved in "men's work" (being in a men's group, supporting the local men's center, etc, seeking close mail friends).
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GUEST ARTICLE... by Glenn J. Sacks
When Men's Health Doesn't Count
The disturbing health and mortality disparities between American whites and blacks are well known, but most people do not realize that the health and mortality disparities between women and men are just as great. For example, the gap in life expectancy between whites and blacks is six years, while the gender gap is 5.7 years. Adjusted for age, men are 1.6 times as likely as women to die from one of the top 10 causes of death, and blacks are 1.5 times as likely to die from them as whites.
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GUEST ARTICLE... by Tresa McBee
AT LIBERTY: The Politics of Abuse
How interesting that following each incident of teenage boys shooting at school, we’re treated to a parade of experts telling us that our boys are murdering in reaction to a society that denies their feelings, and if they could just openly admit those feelings without fear of ridicule we’d go a long way to filling that emotional void and stopping violence. Why is it we don’t encourage silent, abused men to likewise open up?
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JEFF'S LIFE... monthly column by Jeff Stimpson
Leggo My Logo
I am raising two little Americans. They saw logos before they were born: "GE" on the screens of the fetal monitors, "3M" on the sterile surgical wrap, "Sony" on the operating room boom box. I looked around at the masks and the blood and wondered if these corporations had washed their hands.
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COYOTE... monthly column by Dick Prosapio
Getting Things Straight
The refrigerator hums in the background, an occasional car drones by, "I wonder what the temperature is in here?" my mother asks, then hauls herself out of the chair and continues, "It's almost seventy in here. I think I'll open a window and see if there is a breeze."
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THE NEW INTIMACY... monthly column by Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
The Price of Gratitude
Long before we get to the table laden with turkey, cranberry sauce, and golden yams we are faced with the challenge of gratitude that extends well beyond Thanksgiving Day into all parts of our lives. For example, some people openly admit to having a terrible time accepting compliments, when a simple "Thank you" is all that's needed. And how many of us squirm in the face of being truly loved? So we duck and dodge and stay mute as thankfulness goes unexpressed.
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