Suffering From The Love Grip?
by
Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
© 2006
If you feel
held back, stuck in a rut, blocked from the love and success you
want, and you don’t’ know why – you are under the spell of what we
call The Love Grip.
When we’re too
young to know the difference, we unwittingly give our innate love
and loyalty to our parents and larger family, culture, neighborhood
and church and thereby internalize their all too often limited and
negative judgments of who we are.
Because we are
largely unformed, we readily and without question believe what we
are told about our lack of value, our incompetence, and our tiny
place in the world.
Then, in order
to keep that primary and primitive love in place, we call it The
Love Grip, we have no choice but to stay true to that negation of
our magnificence. And, what follows is an unconscious commitment to
The Fear of Being Fabulous(tm).
Suffering
under The Fear of Being Fabulous we cannot permit ourselves full and
free expression of our talents, dreams, and imagination. We cannot
pursue love relationships or success in the world that would
contradict where we came from. However, we are scarcely aware of
what we are doing.
And the
practical result is that what appears as a "failure" is actually a
successful allegiance to the limitations that we took on as we
accepted how we were treated.
So now, what
commonly passes as self-sabotage is actually a success. The question
is, at what?
But when you
Overcome the Fear of Being Fabulous, you're then free to follow your
intuition, your talent, your genius, to live the life of your
dreams. It will require that you betray where you came from. And
that's not so easy. Yet you must if you are to forgive those who
didn't know better when they limited your idea of who you are. And
you must if you are to forgive yourself for living in limitation all
these years.
After all,
true forgiveness can only occur when you’ve lived through the injury
of The Love Grip into The Freedom To Be Fabulous waiting for you on
the other side. ___________
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