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Book-of-the-Month...
september 2006 |
Finding Our Fire:
Enhancing
men's connection to heart, passion and strength
By
Martin Brossman
© 2006
Finding
Our Fire is based on the Mens
Inquiry Group, which has been meeting monthly in
person and on-line for over 10 years. A monthly
meeting where men explore a question about their
lives together that gives them new insight and
new actions to take. It has inspired men to
enhance their relationships with their families,
improve their jobs, and resolve old issues in
their lives that had held them back. Questions
explored in the Mens Inquiry include: What does
it mean to be a man today? How do you discover
your purpose in life and live it while providing
for your family? What type of son were you to
your father? And how to keep love and passion
alive in a long-term relationship? The book is a
tool for enhancing a man's own life or for
creating a men's group to support his life and
on-going success. It is also a window into men's
inner world that improves women's understanding
of men and men's understanding of themselves.
This book is about the authentic voice of men
helping men by contributing their own life
experiences. This book showcases the emotional
courage of men. Something you do not hear much
in society! BOOK DESCRIPTION

Excerpt from Finding Our Fire...
by Martin Brossman
Rites of
Passage
In my years in men’s work, I have learned that
initiation takes many forms. Although there is no one
right way or right time, only masculinity can grant
masculinity. Too long we men have turned to women to
initiate us into masculine maturity. In truth, it is
really up to us as men. Meanwhile many women are tired
of trying to do a job that should be that of a
man—introducing a boy into manhood. One of my clients, a
single mother of a teenage boy, told me she felt great
relief when she admitted she could not effectively
mentor her son by herself. She happily worked with me
when I found responsible men in the community to provide
the mentoring role missing in her son’s life.
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Guest Article...
by Glenn Sacks and Mike McCormick
New
American Bar Association Article Points to
Crisis in False Paternity Judgements...
Child support
enforcement programs are supported by all sides of the political
spectrum, from women’s advocates on the left to traditionalists
on the right. While this popularity is sometimes understandable,
it has also allowed glaring and inexcusable abuses to fester and
grow. Of these, none is more egregious than when men are forced
to pay 18 years of child support for children who are not
theirs, and who in many cases they’ve never even met.
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Article 
Men's Worklife...
by
Marty Nemko
Never Look
Back...
My
father is a Holocaust survivor who lost his entire family to the
Nazis. After the war, he was dumped onto a cargo boat and
dropped in the Bronx, with no English, no money, no education, and
knowing no one. His first job was sewing shirts in a Harlem factory. On the weekend, he sold shirts he had sewn
on the streets of Harlem, out
of a cardboard box. He did that until he had saved up enough
for the first and last month’s rent on the tiniest, smelliest
store in
New York City: 105 Moore St., Brooklyn. On one side was a live chicken market, spewing
the aroma of stale blood. On the other side was a Puerto Rican
deli. So the blood smell merged with that of chiccarones
(deep-fried pork intestines).
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COYOTE...
monthly column by Dick Prosapio
Racial Profiling...
All my
liberal and ACLU friends are going to hate me for saying this
even though they may be thinking it too, but here it is, America
has been doing racial profiling for years, in fact, ever since
we set the country up. And we're not the only country or people
to do this. In fact, everybody does it.
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THE NEW
INTIMACY... monthly column by
Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James
Sniechowski, Ph.D.
The Success Prison: Are You Incarcerated?...
If you feel
frustrated, even mystified by what’s standing in the way of your
greater success, it’s actually not that difficult to understand.
The question is: Are you ready? Really ready?
Because the answer lives down in your unconscious . . . laying
there . . . lying to you.
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JEFF'S LIFE... monthly
column by Jeff Stimpson
Bully for Him...
All
summer, Ned's worn the face of a kid who seems to be making the
best of it. We paid $2,600 -- peanuts, I know, compared with the
fees of some day camps -- for him to attend a day camp:
swimming, sports, arts and crafts, the brand of fun to be had in
life before you realize how miserable humidity makes you.
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DADS, DON'T FIX YOUR KIDS...
monthly column by
Mark Brandenburg,
M.A
A Family Reminder for a Father...
Dusk was rapidly approaching on our
last night at the lodge. On this windy evening, my wife and kids
were out watching the surf, and I was in the lodge. As I tried to
figure out my next move, I noticed the Minnesota Twins baseball game
on the TV. I sat down and began to watch, feeling my interest in the
“real world” drift away. As the inning finished, I felt a strong
urge to join my family. I got up and headed straight out to the
water, and found them huddled on a large rock.
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TOWARD MANHOOD...
A book in progress by Larry Pesavento
Chapter 18...
Last Temptations
As
a man gets closer to his goals on his initiatory journey, there
are some powerful last temptations. In the middle of ordeal his
weakness and confusion may get the better of him. As he starts
to feel and understand the goal he is after, he finds it
illusory and impermanent. He has not gone far enough in his
journey to truly believe his vision. He is tired and spent.
Read
Chapter
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REVIEW:
Straight Talk for Men about Marriage:
What Men Need to Know About Marriage (And What Women Need to Know
About Men)
By Martin G. Friedman ©2006 The author has put together an appealingly presented, male-friendly
guide to improving the quality of our marriages. As Friedman is the
first to point out, this isn’t exactly rocket science. We need to
learn to do the basics. A marriage is a path to learning about
ourselves. Projecting our discontent onto our spouse doesn’t do
either of us any favors.
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REVIEW:
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One Woman’s Journey into Manhood and Back Again
By Norah Vincent Norah Vincent has produced a new
book whose simple underlying concept nevertheless seems to possess
all the potential power of, say, John Howard Griffin’s classic Black Like Me, in which the Caucasian author masqueraded as a
black man and was astonished at the depths of the discrimination and
barriers he discovered. Author Vincent tries to do the same thing
for gender, dressing in drag as “Ned” and entering various supposed
male bastions to report on what she discovers.
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REVIEW:
The Smart Couple’s Guide to the
Wedding of Your Dreams: Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy
By
By Judith
Sherven and James Sniechowski Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski, husband-and-wife psychologists
and authors of three books previously reviewed by me in these pages
(The New Intimacy, Opening to Love 365 Days a Year, and Be
Loved for Who You Really Are) have just published a new book on
their favorite topic, love and marriage. In a literal sense, The
Smart Couple’s Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams covers a
narrower subject than any of their three previous books. But
actually, predictably enough given the authors’ excellent writing
skills and tireless, creative devotion to promoting passion, their
latest offering manages to transcend the limits of the genre of
wedding guides. Not seeing a book that went beyond the
technicalities of wedding planning and touched the spirit of the
event, they took the plunge and wrote it!
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REVIEW:
Partnering: A
New Kind of Relationship
By Hal Stone and Sidra Stone
© 2006 Hal and Sidra Stone are, like Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski
(whose latest book is reviewed elsewhere in this issue) a
husband-and-wife psychologist team who have written a number of
books and who travel the world giving workshops on their techniques
for improving one’s life and relationships. Partnering does
not represent a stunning advance on the authors’ previous work but
it does expand, in the specific context of relationships, on the
work they have helped pioneer in exploring the multiple selves each
of us contains through the voice dialogue technique.
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REVIEW:
The Prodigal Father: A True Story of Tragedy, Survival, and
Reconciliation in an American Family.
By Jon DuPre. Jon DuPre’s achievement with “The Prodigal Father” is stupefying.
What this correspondent for Fox Network News has done is so simple:
He has told the story of his family of origin, consisting of two
brothers, himself, and his mother and father. As a novel, the book
would fail. For one thing, the plot would be utterly unbelievable!
But “The Prodigal Father” is billed as an “autobiography,” and
written with loving detail and self-revelation so honest and so deep
that took my breath away. As such, it is utterly compelling and
simultaneously completely credible.
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REVIEW:
Gendercide and Genocide Edited by Adam Jones
© 2006 Apart from the rarest exceptions (such as the not-to-be-missed “Female
‘Circumcision’ in Africa: Culture, Controversy, and Change,” Edited
by Bettina Shell-Duncan and Ylva Hernlund), edited volumes tend to
be hit-and-miss affairs. It’s hard enough simply to find an
appropriate topic, to accumulate contributions that are varied
enough to provide interest but not so different that they work at
cross-purposes, and to publish the work. Maintaining a razor-like
focus as can easily be done with an individually authored book by
definition becomes almost impossible with an edited volume.
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