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Book-of-the-Month... JANUARY 2006

The Secrets of Happily Married Men:
Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever

by Scott Haltzman, M.D. ©2006

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Haltzman begins this marriage guide for men by emphasizing the biological differences between men and women, arguing that traditional approaches to marriage counseling can devalue men and ignore immutable male qualities. Evolutionary biology along with explanations of the limbic system governing emotions provide the foundation for Haltzman's argument that much psychological dogma is possibly wrong, buoying married men by suggesting that it might be healthy "to keep your feelings to yourself" or that getting in touch with feelings is not a panacea for a better marriage. Then Haltzman, a psychiatry professor at Brown and operator of a Web site devoted to the "secrets of married men," launches his eight strategies with remarkable vigor. Despite the author's unorthodox theoretical groundwork, the strategies are commonsensical—make marriage your job, learn to listen, know your wife, aim to please. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful "to do" lists and a multitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage. From Publishers Weekly

“We live in a world that has largely given up on the idea that men might be fit for family life and cooperative, communicative equality with women. Psychiatrist and marriage therapist Scott Haltzman now comes to the rescue. Scott spends his life listening to men, to the pain and confusion of guys trying to answer Freud’s immortal question, ‘What does a woman want?' or, more germane, ‘What does a woman’s therapist or self-help guru want?’ Scott has written an invaluable book, crammed with good advice for men on marriage and with cues for women to understand what if feels like to be a man and how men might be useful if everyone would stop trying to fix the fact that they are men. (Scott is well aware that being a man is no excuse for being a pig.)  This book should be on the bedside table of any marriage with a man in it.”-- Frank S. Pittman III, M.D., author, Man Enough and Grow Up!

“Every decade or so, a book about marriage comes along whose perspective is unique, essential, and marriage changing. The Secrets of Happily Married Men is that kind of book. Like Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, this book is hard to put down whether you are a woman or a man. It grips you from the first page and challenges you to tell the kinds of secrets that lead to real happier marriages and human love.”-- Michael Gurian, author, What Could He Be Thinking?, The Minds of Boys.

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Book-Of-The-Month excerpt... by Scott Haltzman, M.D.
Warrior Husbands
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uman biology has actually wired men to be good at conflict.  On average we weigh eight percent more than women, and we are six percent taller. We have greater muscle mass and less body fat.  It is no accident of history that most great warriors and soldiers have been men.  Men have a highly attuned internal alert system. When pressured to act, their arousal system kicks in with fight-or-flight body changes – changes well suited to solve conflict.  From gladiators, to matadors, to hockey fans, men are designed for confrontation.
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Guest Article... by Marty Nemko
Low-Risk, High-Payoff Self-Employment Ideas...
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o many men would like to be self-employed, except for one thing: the risk. Fortunately, some businesses entail much less risk than others. They avoid the six major sources of risk:
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Guest Article... by Michael Gurian
Dealing with Some Problems in a Marriage...
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n presenting a marital map that emphasizes biological development, I hope I've presented a recognizable picture of human love. As you look at it you might think, "Do most of today's couples ever live out the whole journey?"
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Guest Article... by Glenn Sacks
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At the age of 11, Maegan Woods tried to stop a domestic dispute between her parents. She soon found herself staring down the barrel of her father's shotgun. She watched helplessly as the trigger was pulled. She is only alive today because the gun didn't fire--the safety was on.
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COYOTE... monthly column by Dick Prosapio
When the Mobile Changes...
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here is this concept that families and groups are constructed very much like mobiles, those carefully balanced dynamic sculptures. The theory says that when one aspect of the mobile changes, everything is effected.

This theory is readily seen in action whenever one member of a group or family, most often the latter, tries to break out of the dynamic, the rest of the group tries to sabotage the effort in some subtle, or not so subtle, way.

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THE NEW INTIMACY... monthly column by Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
Dream Big, Dream With Love...
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he celebration of the new year is the oldest of all continuing holidays. It was observed 4000 years ago by the ancient Babylonians and has continued, with only minor interruptions, into modern times.

Anything with a history that long and enduring clearly has deep significance for the human psyche.
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JEFF'S LIFE... monthly column by Jeff Stimpson
Speechifying...

In presentations I state that I've never had a conversation with Alex. This is no longer strictly true, and it's about 10 miles from true with Ned.

With Ned, the language flows. Take, for instance, the morning about a month ago when we were walking from the subway to his kindergarten and I asked him to look up at me. His face was dirty. "Ned," I said, "when we get to school, I want to stop by the bathroom and wash your face."

He looked back down at the sidewalk. "They don't have a bathroom," he said.
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DADS, DON'T FIX YOUR KIDS... monthly column by Mark Brandenburg, M.A
A Father's New Year...
It is a time in our history when it’s increasingly difficult to feel optimistic about the state of the world. And it’s a time of the year when we are flooded by the memories of the years past, and by the hope of a better year to come.

There is no better time than now to reflect on our life. And there is no better time to examine the state of our important relationships.
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TOWARD MANHOOD... A book in progress by Larry Pesavento

From chapter 13 Part 2... Death
In fact, a depressive reaction is normal for a death. The healthy reaction to loss is grief. Separation naturally brings sadness. The loss of boyhood pleasures and dreams should bring mourning. A man is much more authentic by mourning than by raging or resigning. Terrence Real says we must learn as men to accept our depression and make it overt. Then we can deal with it without shame. So do all the modern elders who are familiar with the soul. Without depression a man is stuck on his road to manhood. By not accepting depression a man will not accept his loss. By not accepting depression a man will not accept his initiatory death.

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 Men's Book Reviews by J. Steven Svoboda

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REVIEW: Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap—and What Women Can Do About It. By Warren Farrell, Ph.D.
A new book from Dr. Warren Farrell is of course eagerly awaited by all of us who care about gender equity. I dare say that each of his books represents an evolution since the publication of the previous one, both in terms of Warren’s own growth and in terms of society’s developing awareness of, and willingness to hear more regarding, pertinent men’s and women’s (and people’s!) issues.
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REVIEW: SPIN SISTERS: How the Women of the Media Sell Unhappiness and Liberalism to the Women of America. By Myrna Blyth
Every now and then, it’s fun to try something a little different. Even if it isn’t quite your cup of tea, it keeps life interesting to try walking in the moccasins of someone with whom you might have previously thought you had nothing in common. Myrna Blyth has written a book specifically designed for, and often directly addressed to, politically conservative women. People such as myself who don’t fit into these categories may seemingly have little to gain from reading Spin Sisters. And in fact, Blyth could have written the book differently in a way that would have carried the same essential message while allowing her to speak to a wider audience inclusive of males and non-conservatives.
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REVIEW:  TAKING SEX DIFFERENCES SERIOUSLY. By Steven E. Rhoads.
University of Virginia public policy professor Steven E. Rhoads’ latest book purports to be a meticulously researched and elegantly written, provocative and groundbreaking exploration of the masculine and feminine. I found Taking Sex Differences Seriously to be a solid though unexceptional book that makes a number of interesting points. Career women, we learn, have higher average testosterone levels. Rhoads provides interesting detail on how modern university textbooks ignore women who choose to focus on volunteer and/or homemaker careers, ironically implying that the only careers acceptable for women are those traditionally defined (presumably by the patriarchy) as successful. Along similar lines, the author deftly points out the absurdity of prescribing and proscribing activities for our children based on our political wishes.
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Archive of All Reviews & Interviews... by J. Steven Svoboda.

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MENSIGHT Magazine is another free service of The Men's Resource Network, Inc. (MRN). It has grown out of the response that we have received from articles posted on TheMensCenter.com (TMC), our official web-site. The first issue went on-line on May 1, 2000. (Archive)

MENSIGHT is dedicated to publishing diverse articles for and about men. We believe that there are valuable lessons to be learned from the advocates of all the various men's issues.

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