What's wrong
with being a Nice Guy? Plenty, according to Dr. Robert Glover, an
eminent psychotherapist who has devoted his career to freeing men from
the "Nice Guy Syndrome." In a revealing look at this widespread yet
unexplored phenomenon, Dr. Glover explains how-by trying too hard to
please others and neglecting their own needs-supposedly nice men
become unhappy, resentful, and lash out against those they love. Based
on years of clinical group therapy with men and couples, Dr. Glover's
groundbreaking work teaches men how to stop seeking the approval of
others and start living up to their full potential. No More Mr.
Nice Guy! will transform the lives of nice guys everywhere.
INTRODUCTION...
by Robert A. Glover, Ph.D.
Nice Guys are
concerned about looking good and doing it "right." They are happiest
when they are making others happy. Nice Guys avoid conflict like the
plague and will go to great lengths to avoid upsetting anyone. In
general, Nice Guys are peaceful and generous. Nice Guys are especially
concerned about pleasing women and being different from other men. In
a nutshell,
Nice Guys
believe that if they are good, giving, and caring, they will in return
be happy, loved, and fulfilled.
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Spending a lot of my life
seeking to move beyond the "gender issue" - being all things to all
people - left me feeling empty inside. It also left me with many women
who loved me for what a "sensitive guy" I was, but I lacked a deeper
sense of being grounded. What I can say is, something profoundly
changed in my life when I set aside my commitment to being some kind
of "purely androgynous balanced being" and got more involved in "men's
work" (being in a men's group, supporting the local men's center, etc,
seeking close mail friends).
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by Glenn J. Sacks
When Men's Health Doesn't Count
The
disturbing health and mortality disparities between American whites
and blacks are well known, but most people do not realize that the
health and mortality disparities between women and men are just as
great. For example, the gap in life expectancy between whites and
blacks is six years, while the gender gap is 5.7 years. Adjusted for
age, men are 1.6 times as likely as women to die from one of the top
10 causes of death, and blacks are 1.5 times as likely to die from
them as whites.
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GUEST ARTICLE...
by Tresa McBee
AT LIBERTY: The Politics of Abuse
How
interesting that following each incident of teenage boys shooting at
school, we’re treated to a parade of experts telling us that our boys
are murdering in reaction to a society that denies their feelings, and
if they could just openly admit those feelings without fear of
ridicule we’d go a long way to filling that emotional void and
stopping violence. Why is it we don’t encourage silent, abused men to
likewise open up?
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JEFF'S LIFE... monthly
column by Jeff Stimpson
Leggo My Logo
I
am raising two little Americans. They saw logos before they were born:
"GE" on the screens of the fetal monitors, "3M" on the sterile
surgical wrap, "Sony" on the operating room boom box. I looked around
at the masks and the blood and wondered if these corporations had
washed their hands.
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COYOTE...
monthly column by Dick Prosapio
Getting Things Straight
The
refrigerator hums in the background, an occasional car drones by, "I
wonder what the temperature is in here?" my mother asks, then hauls
herself out of the chair and continues, "It's almost seventy in here.
I think I'll open a window and see if there is a breeze."
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THE NEW INTIMACY...
monthly column by
Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D.
The Price of Gratitude
Long
before we get to the table laden with turkey, cranberry sauce, and
golden yams we are faced with the challenge of gratitude that extends
well beyond Thanksgiving Day into all parts of our lives. For example,
some people openly admit to having a terrible time accepting
compliments, when a simple "Thank you" is all that's needed. And how
many of us squirm in the face of being truly loved? So we duck and
dodge and stay mute as thankfulness goes unexpressed.
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